Should You Live Together Before Marriage?. Everything You Should Know

Living together before marriage is one of the most debated topics till date. What do you think? Is it really necessary to live together before marriage?

Living together before marriage should be a choice for the couple to make. After all, how better to test compatibility than to live side-by-side? Waking up to morning breathes, farts, seeing dirty clothes piles, late night discussions, aren’t really something you’d just want to jump in to immediately after saying “I do” on the altar. Living together can expose couples to know what they’re actually getting into before getting trapped in relationships they can’t just walk away from easily.

The truth is, there is no answer to whether living together before marriage is a good idea or a bad idea. It all depends on you and your partner.

That’s why in this article, we’ll show you why couples choose to live together before marriage, and also the dangers you actually might not have considered.

Why Do Couples Live Together?

1.To test compatibility

This is one of the most common reasons couples give for staying together. They want to know if they are compatible to stay together as married couple. Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime, so you have to be sure of the person you’re signing that certificate with.

Testing compatibility may not be just sexually, because a lot of people assume they just have to be compatible sexually to get married. If it’s just sexually, then there’s no need to stay together then. Compatibility means you have to know your partner so well that you will be sure that you can actually live with him or her for a lifetime. That includes knowing things they do that you may not like. Things like maybe, snoring, messy kitchens, farting, even how their personal hygiene may be. If you are sure you can tolerate for a lifetime, or you can help him or her change, then you’ll be sure you’ll be compatible. But if you can’t tolerate, then it’s safe to walk away before it becomes something too serious. That’s one of the reasons couples live together.

2. To save money

Couples often times move in together to save costs. You both have bills to pay, and that can be really tedious and hectic. So, instead of paying the same amount everytime,you both decide to move in together to pay the same amount as one. That is, you both can split the bill, the best way you agree to pay the bills. This saves costs, and helps improve trust and love. That’s a real deal breaker and an amazing benefit of living together, even though you’re not yet married.

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3. For emotional closeness

Well, no matter whatever reason couples may have for moving in together before getting married, let’s not forget that yes, they are in love. Seeing each other when you wake up and when you are about to sleep, going out and coming in to still see each other deepens intimacy. It almost feels like you’re married. This increases love in the relationship, which is very good for marriage.

Living together before marriage proves to be very beneficial to both parties in the relationship. It strenthens love, builds trust, and increases familiarity.

In everything, there’s always a but. Irregardless of the fact that living together before marriage is actually a way of getting to know more about each other before getting married, there are still some dangers you need to be aware of before agreeing to live together.

Dangers To Be Considered

Remember, living together is not compulsory, it shouldn’t seem like something you were forced into. You should be the one to make the decision if you want to live with your partner or not. And if you do decide to live with them, here are a very few things you should take note of.

1.Family Pressure

You should definitely know that once you guys begin to live together, your family would begin to pressure you both to tie the knot and get married. They don’t care if you guys have decided to take things slowly, and get to know each other. They would want you to get married immediately, so you can start living together, officially. Apparently, they believe it’s against moral values to live together when you’re not married to each other. And they do not care if you guys are just trying to ensure you’re compatible, so you don’t end up making mistakes you’ll regret.

2. The idea of ‘sliding’ into marriage

This mainly comes from the woman. You’ll probably stay with your man for 2 to 3 years and begin to conclude maybe he doesn’t want to get married to you. It’s not a disorder, it’s normal to get such ideas. It’s quite a concern that you’d live together for a long while and you haven’t gotten married. This may lead to raising questions and conclusions, and when Qs and Cs are involved, you definitely can guess there’ll be a fight. And when there’s a fight, you’ll be sure that you guys aren’t getting married anymore. Well unless there’s reconciliation.

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These dangers are real. But you don’t have to be bothered. Living together is not compulsory. Before moving in, you need to sit and consider all these. Ask yourself, “Am I really ready to live with my partner?” “Do I want to live with them because I feel pressured, or is it my will?” “How would my family react if they hear about it?” Once you’ve thought of all these and you’re sure you can live with your partner, then you go for it. But if you think you may not be able to, here are some alternatives you could try to get closer to your partner.

1.Extended Sleepovers: You could stay longer than a normal sleep over. You could stay for 3 days or maybe a week.

2. Going on trips together: You guys could travel, take a vacation, just enjoy some time together.

3. Going out together: Go out on dates, do something fun together.

What do you think? Should couples live together before marriage?