What to Expect on Your First Date, Ladies Should Beware of Number 5

So you’ve got a first date coming up, and you’re excited butlso low-key nervous, right? First dates are funny things; sometimes you meet a whole vibe, and other times, you just want to disappear, so before you step out, make sure you know what you’re walking into.

I’m going to tell you what usually happens on first dates, what you should watch out for, and especially why number 5 is the one you need to be sharp about.

1. He looks good but talks like he’s reading from a script.

You know that guy who looks like a snack in his pics, but the moment he opens his mouth, you’re like, “Is this a joke?” Some guys can’t talk well; they either brag too much or talk like they’re trying to sell something, no chill at all, and the worst is when he talks only about himself like you’re just an audience. Nah, that’s not a date; that’s a one-man show. You want a conversation, not a monologue.

2. He asks questions like it’s a police interrogation.

Sometimes, guys come at you with a list of questions like where you work, how much you earn, your family background, and your plans. Like, calm down, it’s not an interview, it’s a date. If he’s grilling you and not sharing about himself, that’s a red flag. A date should be two-way; you both should share stories and laugh. If he doesn’t get that, don’t waste your time.

3. He acts like he’s broke to test you.

Some guys will try to act like they have no money just to see if you will pay or help them. He might say, “Let’s just walk instead of eating out” or “I forgot my wallet.” Don’t fall for that. Your kindness isn’t a free pass for him to mooch. You don’t owe him anything. If you want to pay, fine; if not, chill. It’s not your job to finance a first date.

4. The date seems okay, but you feel weird afterward.

Sometimes you laugh, you enjoy the moment, but when you get home, something feels off, maybe a comment he made or how he looked at you. Trust that feeling inside; your body knows when something isn’t right. Don’t ignore it. If you feel uncomfortable, it’s okay to say no to another date. Your peace matters more than being polite.

5. He will try to bring up sex without even saying it.

This one is a serious gbege; sometimes he will be asking you, “Do you sleep with clothes on?” or “What kind of hugs do you like?” Like it’s just normal talk, but nah, he’s testing the waters to see if you’re open for more than just chatting. If a guy starts with this kind of talk early, he’s mostly thinking with his pants. Don’t let sweet talk fool you; protect your body and mind. Shut down that conversation quick quick if you don’t like it, and set your boundaries clear from the start.

6. He complains too much about his ex.

If he spends the whole date talking bad about his ex, blaming her for everything, don’t buy that story. A man who respects women won’t disrespect his past on day one. If he’s doing that, imagine how he will talk about you when things get tough. Be careful with those who throw shade on old flames.

7. He flaunts his money and job too much.

Some guys want to impress you by shouting about their salary, the car they want to buy, or the house they’re building, but money is not everything. If he talks about money and his job like they’re trophies, he might be insecure or just trying too hard. What matters is how he treats you and others. A humble guy with little money is better than a big mouth with a fat wallet. Don’t get carried away by show-off stories.

8. He rushes you to come to his place.

When the date is almost ending and he quickly asks you to “come chill at my place,” beware; he might want to take advantage of you. Don’t feel pressured to say yes; it’s okay to say no and leave. Your safety and comfort come first; never let anybody rush your boundaries.

9. He gets way too romantic too fast.

Some guys will start calling you “baby,” “queen,” or “wifey” on the first date like you don’t know each other and say things like “I think you’re the one.” Slow down; real love takes time to grow. Don’t fall for fast talk; take time to see who he really is before you give your heart. Slow and steady wins the race.

10. You feel like you messed up, but don’t beat yourself

Maybe you said something awkward or stumbled over your words, or you think he didn’t like you. No wahala, first dates are stressful for everybody. You don’t have to be perfect; just be yourself. If a guy can’t like you for you, then he’s not the right person. Don’t waste energy trying to impress people who don’t see your worth.

11. He will say things he doesn’t mean just to keep you

Some guys will say things like, “You’re exactly what I’ve been praying for,” or “You’re my last bus stop.” Don’t be flattered; you just met. He doesn’t know you yet. Fast talk is usually a setup. They rush you with sweet words so you won’t think properly. Don’t let anybody package you into a relationship in one night. Take your time.

Final gist

First dates, na wah, sometimes you get better, sometimes you just want to forget, but no matter what, protect your heart and your peace, don’t rush, don’t ignore the signs, and never settle for less than you deserve.

Number 5 is the main beige. Many guys start from there, so keep your eyes open and your boundaries tight. Remember, a date is just a meeting; no need to stress. Enjoy the moment, but keep your head clear. You are worth respect from day one; if you don’t feel it, walk away without regret. Go out there and have fun, but go ready—no time to waste!